That is half 1 of my 5-part collection on the right way to *truly* cease procrastinating. On this episode (half 1) you’ll perceive the three hidden the explanation why you haven’t been in a position to cease procrastinating…

You’re not lazy, unmotivated or incapable of constructing a profitable enterprise. There are three hidden causes you procrastinate. And none of them having something to do with whether or not or not you’re lower out for entrepreneurship.

By the top of this episode, you’ll perceive why it’s not your fault that you just procrastinate on placing your self on the market, why your makes an attempt to cease procrastinating haven’t labored and the easy issues it is advisable do to create the arrogance it is advisable put your self on the market.

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This 5-part collection is for perfectionists who:

• Get caught in analysis mode on the subject of your area of interest, messaging and branding
• Purchase cameras, domains and planners to attempt to inspire themselves to indicate up
• Push necessary duties off till the final minute since you want the strain

All the things you’ve realized about the right way to cease procrastinating doesn’t apply to perfectionists!

Throughout this 5-part procrastination collection I’ll be instructing you the shocking reality about procrastination, the hidden causes you haven’t been in a position to cease and the easy course of you’ll be able to instantly begin following to really cease procrastinating. 

I gained’t be telling you to delete social media apps or write a reminder on a post-it observe to remind you ‘performed is best than excellent’. 

This collection goes that can assist you create emotional security and emotions which might be going to mean you can even have the arrogance to cease procrastinating and put your self on the market.

Tune into this collection to learn to cease procrastinating so your online business can lastly get off the bottom.

Discover the total episode transcript and present notes at samlaurabrown.com/episode447.

In This Episode You’ll Study:

• The shocking reality about procrastination 
• How procrastination & perfectionism made me get in my very own approach once I began my enterprise
• The three hidden the explanation why you procrastinate
• Why it’s not your fault that you just procrastinate
• Why your makes an attempt to cease procrastinating haven’t labored
• Easy issues it is advisable do to create the arrogance it is advisable put your self on the market

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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

Introduction
Hello and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Venture, a podcast stuffed with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My identify is Sam Laura Brown, I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake to allow them to get out of their very own approach and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the Perfectionist Getting Shit Performed group teaching program, which is in any other case often known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your online business. You possibly can observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject

Sam Laura Brown
Welcome to this 5 half collection on the right way to cease procrastinating. If you happen to’re a perfectionist entrepreneur, and you’ve got been getting in your personal approach, then this collection goes to provide the sensible steps it is advisable observe to really cease procrastinating. Perhaps you’ve been procrastinating on deciding what your area of interest is, or which social media platform to be on or which tools to make use of. Perhaps you might have been procrastinating on taking the following steps, hitting publish, launching that course placing your self on the market, or possibly you might have been procrastinating, on displaying up absolutely, you’re going by way of the motions, you’re posting, however you understand that you just’re not doing it in addition to you may, since you’re petrified of placing your self on the market and being judged.

So on this collection, we’re gonna be masking precisely what it is advisable do the sensible steps to observe. And there are going to be so many actionable takeaways from this collection that can assist you cease procrastinating and really really feel secure doing that. One of many issues I simply wish to point out proper right here is that as a lot as we wish to cease procrastinating, we keep away from stopping procrastinating, as a result of it means we’re gonna must do scary issues. So this collection as properly goes that can assist you create some emotional security and emotions which might be going to mean you can even have the arrogance to cease procrastinating and put your self on the market, we perfectionist don’t wish to get it improper, we don’t wish to make a nasty first impression. We don’t wish to get laughed at we don’t wish to waste effort.

And so this collection isn’t solely going to offer you these actionable steps it is advisable observe and may begin following instantly. However it’s arrange in a approach so that you just’re going to really feel secure following these steps. And also you’re going to find a way although it can take braveness, you’re going to have the ability to do it with out freaking your perfectionist mind out. This can be a idea I’ll be speaking about lots on this collection, as a result of you actually need to get your perfectionist mindset in your aspect to be able to get out of your personal approach. And which means approaching constructing your online business in a approach that doesn’t freak you out and make you wish to conceal in a gap.

So in case you don’t already know who I’m, and possibly that is the primary episode of mine that you just’re listening to. My identify is Sam Laura Brown. And I’m a coach for perfectionist entrepreneurs. I’ll speak a bit about what which means in a minute for those who haven’t labored with a coach earlier than or don’t actually know the way they’d assist you for your online business. However at this level, I’ve remodeled $2 million in income in my enterprise. And I’ve labored with over 1000 perfectionist entrepreneur shoppers from all completely different industries, and from all completely different elements of the world. So I could also be in Australia, myself in Brisbane. However I’ve labored with so many entrepreneurs, notably in the USA, but in addition within the UK, in Europe, virtually each nation and I’ve podcast listeners for this podcast, which is a prime rated podcast from everywhere in the world, hundreds of thousands of downloads.

And so I’ve seen so many patterns and themes that I can’t assist however discuss them with you as a result of I do know they’re gonna assist. And the industries these perfectionists entrepreneurs are from photographers, artists, monetary brokers, actual property brokers, therapists, nutritionists, different coaches like me, actually, on the subject of entrepreneurship, and perfectionism, and the way that impacts our productiveness. It’s the identical throughout all of those completely different industries. It’s the identical fears we now have round placing ourselves on the market and being seen and hitting publish once we don’t really feel like our work is nice sufficient. And that’s what I assist folks with. I’m additionally a mum of three little ones as properly.

So I’ve my daughter Lydia, who’s two and a half and twin sons, Jack and James who’ve simply turned one. So it hasn’t all the time been this fashion that I’ve been in a position to put myself on the market to try this confidently. It actually was fairly the alternative. Once I first began my enterprise in 2013, I used to be a college scholar learning regulation and finance. And I began a weblog and I didn’t inform anybody about it. I used to be so scared for anybody in my life to really assume that I had no thought what I used to be doing as a result of that’s how I felt. So I didn’t even inform my now husband Steve about it for nearly a yr. I simply take it away at it whereas I used to be meant to be learning. And I simply advised folks on the web however even higher, I actually wasn’t placing myself on the market. I wasn’t displaying my face. I wasn’t posting persistently. I used to be busy working. I used to be placing myself out at occasions however I wasn’t displaying up absolutely, I used to be simply in that analysis mode, and ready for the whole lot to really feel excellent.

And I didn’t. Due to this. I didn’t make my first greenback till after I graduated and was working full time as an accountant. So in 2016, I made my first greenback in my enterprise. And it wasn’t till 2019, 6 years, after learning that I truly had my first $100,000 a yr. And this all comes all the way down to perfectionism, that I didn’t even understand I used to be a perfectionist. Once I first began my enterprise, I simply thought I had a motivation drawback. However actually, I used to be scared to place myself on the market. And I used to be scared to really feel the disgrace that may observe with me being seen to be imperfect, and that I didn’t know what I used to be doing, and that I didn’t know what I used to be speaking about. So my mind had all of those intelligent methods to maintain me secure, I spent plenty of time enhancing, researching, and simply getting myself prepared. However I wasn’t placing myself on the market. Due to the way in which perfectionism works.

So as soon as I truly began to determine and piece collectively, the right way to get out of my very own approach. And what perfectionism actually is and the affect that was having on my enterprise, to the extent that after studying about all the very best advertising and marketing methods, and being a wise individual, I couldn’t truly implement them just because the way in which my mind was eager about me and my enterprise. And so I checked out so many alternative productiveness methods and instruments and did all of the issues I may, and all of the trial and error to determine it out. After which I began serving to different folks with what I had found out. And I’ve seen it work for over 1000 perfectionists entrepreneur shoppers, and I wish to share a few of these insights and people steps with you as properly on this collection, so as to get out of your personal approach.

I’ll be telling you what’s on this collection in a second. However I simply wish to rapidly point out for those who haven’t labored with a coach earlier than, how to consider how a coach may help you as a result of this may actually open up a lot for you on the subject of your online business. So I simply need you to assume for a second about elite athletes. These are individuals who wish to attain peak efficiency, they wish to attain their full potential. They don’t wish to depart something on the desk, they rent a coach to assist them do this. Sure, there’s a guidelines of the sport and the methods, however they want somebody to assist them truly attain that potential to assist them the place they’ve failures and setbacks to beat that, to assist them preserve going. And to have the ability to present them what’s potential. And actually assist them stay into that and push them in a productive and efficient approach.

So on the subject of how I may help you with your online business, I simply need you to think about me, like your efficiency coach for your online business. As a result of you will expertise failure as an entrepreneur, it doesn’t matter what you do, or how proper the selections are that you just make, you’ll have failed launches or merchandise, you’ll have occasions the place you might have low social media engagement, and nobody’s liking or commenting or what you’re posting. There might be issues that suck. How do you deal with it? How do you deal with it when issues aren’t going your approach? Sometimes for perfectionist, we don’t deal with it properly, we want help with that. We wish to have the ability to bounce again and be resilient and preserve going and preserve our head up as a substitute of going right into a disgrace spiral.

One other piece of this as properly is concern of failure. Are you petrified of failing and is that this making you not even wish to begin not even wish to present up, you’ll be able to truly simply change the way in which that you just had been eager about that concern to be able to get your self to indicate up. So I’m going to be sharing what that appears like on this podcast collection as properly. However for those who simply assume that you just simply want to attend until you begin feeling scared, you’re by no means going to really do the issues it is advisable do. You must learn to do it scared and the right way to really feel secure whereas doing that scared. And that’s what me as your coach may help you to do.

So on this 5 half collection, I’m going to be sharing with you on this first half, why you procrastinate and actually serving to you perceive that. Partly two, I’m going to be instructing you the right way to get unstuck with necessary enterprise choices, like deciding in your area of interest. Partly three, I’m going to be sharing the right way to begin taking constant motion with energy planning. So I’m going to share the three steps you’ll be able to observe and you can begin this instantly the three steps you’ll be able to observe to really plan your week out in a approach that calms your perfectionist mind down so you’ll be able to present up absolutely. Partly 4, I’m going to be sharing the right way to create constructive time strain. So you’ll be able to confidently put your self on the market that is so necessary for those who’re somebody who works properly beneath strain however proper now you additionally burn out.

I’m going to show you the right way to have constructive strain so as to preserve displaying up and present up even higher than you presently are. and also you’re not going to have any of that burnout that has been coming with it. And within the fifth half, I’m going to be sharing the right way to truly start implementing this work. If you happen to do wish to work with me, I’ve a program known as perfectionist getting shit performed, aka PGSD. It’s for perfectionist entrepreneurs that can assist you plan correctly, as infectious and get out of your personal approach. So you’ll be able to construct that worthwhile and fulfilling enterprise have the help that you just want. So we’re opening for enrollment from the 14th to the twenty first of March 2024. And I wish to inform you about it. So you’ll be able to resolve whether or not or not it’s for you. If you happen to can relate to what I share on this collection, I invite you to enroll and actually do that work so as to have that peak efficiency that you just wish to have so as to attain your full potential in your online business, it’s actually arduous to go it alone.

It’s why elite athletes don’t attempt to do it, they rent assist they get somebody to assist them with their mindset and actually be capable to set up themselves to do what they should do. So I wish to invite you into that chance into that chance as properly. So let’s get began by speaking about how perfectionist entrepreneurs who’re making lower than $100,000 per yr in that enterprise. procrastinate. In order I’m going by way of this, I simply need you to be eager about, Is that this me? Is that this one thing that I’m doing proper now. So I’ve divided up into three classes. I’ve seen this time and time once more, with all of the shoppers that I’ve labored with additionally my very own expertise, I’m not shy about sharing my perfectionist struggles of the Previous, Current Future, I actually wish to do this that can assist you.

So all of these items I can relate to I’ve been there. And there’s nonetheless little methods this comes up at occasions simply at a extra superior degree. So initially procrastinate on choices, issues like your area of interest. Perhaps you’re getting caught with deciding what your I assist assertion is your assertion about who you assist and what you assist them with and the way you do this. Or possibly you’re making an attempt to determine what area of interest you will be in, that’s not too saturated. You understand what you truly wish to do, however you’re anxious that there are already too many opponents out there for that to make sense for you. Perhaps you’re procrastinating on deciding your branding and your web site, your colours, which web site host to make use of. Or possibly you’re procrastinating on deciding which social media platforms to be on. Do you have to begin a YouTube channel? Ought to you might have a podcast? Do you have to simply do Instagram, however what about TikTok so you might have these choices it is advisable make that you’re getting caught with.

One other approach that prefectures entrepreneurs, making lower than six figures procrastinate is by procrastinating on taking the following steps, whether or not that’s launching your course, or product or program like truly launching your companies into the world. This may also be that you’ve some companies or a product that you just receives a commission for. However it’s probably not the factor you wish to be doing. However you haven’t but launched that factor you actually wish to do. Posting persistently on social media, that’s one thing you might have been procrastinating on doing. You attempt so arduous to inspire your self, however you simply haven’t been in a position to make it occur. with out falling off the wagon, you might have an limitless To Do Listing necessary issues get consistently pushed again once more. And once more, possibly you’ve been desirous to do an electronic mail listing freebie, and that simply retains getting pushed again. Perhaps it’s making a quiz, your time blocking your calendar out, after which it simply will get deserted. Or possibly you’re procrastinating on placing your self on the market.

So that you’re getting extra levels for {qualifications}. You could have a Google doc of Instagram captions which might be 80% written or your recorded reels, however you had been caught within the enhancing part of the method, as a result of they’re not adequate but to publish. So for those who can relate to that, no, that is all regular. And likewise it’s not your fault. So I’m going to be telling you extra about why that’s the case in a second. However only for a second, perceive that if I may simply articulate that in a approach that resonated for you. It means it’s not a you drawback. It’s a perfectionism drawback. And there’s one thing that you are able to do about that. And there’s so many others who had this as properly. I’ve had all of this expertise too, and I’ve been in a position to construct a very profitable enterprise. So this isn’t an indication that you just’re only a procrastinator and also you’re by no means going to have the ability to succeed. And also you simply have to handle your procrastination tendencies. No, we will truly cut back that need to procrastinate by creating security, emotional security, and having instruments that calm your perfectionist mind down so you’ll be able to confidently and persistently put your self on the market.

So let’s discuss how perfectionist entrepreneurs attempt to cease themselves procrastinating. These are issues that you’ve for certain tried, that haven’t labored and simply know that it’s regular that these haven’t labored, although you’ve seen them possibly work for others round you. So doing plenty of analysis, we simply attempt to inspire ourselves to be assured sufficient by getting an increasing number of data books, webinars, podcasts, YouTube movies, speaking to folks googling issues, utilizing ChatGPT. We simply wish to be sure that we now have all the knowledge and we now have this perception that As soon as I even have the readability I want, I’ll be capable to begin procrastinating. If that doesn’t work. I’ll clarify why in a second.

So one other approach that perfectionist entrepreneurs attempt to cease procrastinating is investing in issues to assist them do it, proper. In order that impostor syndrome goes away. So levels certifications programs, you’re simply wanting to really really feel such as you’re certified to do what you had been doing, although you already are, whether or not that’s actually or you might have the expertise to have the ability to do it. However you simply need it that imposter syndrome, that feeling that I don’t actually know what I’m speaking about, you need it to go away, and you’re educating your self to try to get that to go away. It by no means will. I’ll discuss that extra in a second. And it’s okay that it by no means will.

So the opposite factor we attempt to do, waking up early and a morning routine, that excellent morning routine, we hope that that may inspire us to really do the issues we have to do and cease procrastinating on them, shopping for new tools, a digicam and microphone to try to inspire your self getting meaner and meaner to your self, you need to know higher than to be procrastinator, this, you need to have already performed this by now. The self speak we will must try to inspire ourselves to not procrastinate will be very, very, very extreme. Asking family and friends to maintain you accountable. Perhaps you textual content them your to do listing objects and say hey, I’m simply texting you this. So you may make certain I truly do it, you don’t belief your self to have the ability to do the belongings you wish to do. So you are attempting to get others round you to assist possibly you might have a enterprise bestie and preserve one another accountable. However you’re simply making an attempt so as to add in all this accountability help. Since you don’t belief your self to really do the issues it is advisable do.

You’re setting timers and alarms, you had been utilizing web blocking apps, or deleting social media to try to get your self to do these issues. You’re wanting extra data, you need the readability to be sure to don’t waste your time and also you don’t make the improper resolution. You need extra time as a result of there are such a lot of little issues to be performed that you just don’t have time for the large issues. Additionally, you’ve bought an excessive amount of happening in your private life proper now to even have the total psychological power that you just wish to have. And also you additionally wish to really feel extra assured, you wish to really feel prepared, you don’t wish to be locked out, you don’t wish to do something. cringy you don’t wish to get any bizarre feedback from mates or household or folks on the web.

And so you might have been placing issues off. However let’s discuss the true purpose why you might have been procrastinating. It’s not your fault. So hear about these three and simply actually perceive beneath this all is it isn’t your fault. Sure, you’re good. Sure, you’re clever. And also you procrastinate, it isn’t an indication that you just’re lazy. It’s not an indication that you just’re not lower out for enterprise, it’s not an indication that you just’ll by no means achieve success. It’s simply due to these three issues. So there are three the explanation why you procrastinate, one in every of them it is advisable be taught to handle, however two of them you’ll be able to truly clear up for that may assist you eradicate your need to procrastinate. So you’ll be able to present up confidently and persistently put your self on the market.

So the primary and that is the one you simply have to learn to handle is you might have a human mind, this would possibly embrace some neuro divergence, however you might have a human mind that doesn’t need you to do issues. So we’ll discuss that. You’re additionally within the perfectionist mindset. That is quantity two, your mind proper now could be considering ideas. And never everybody thinks this, lots of people do. However your mind proper now could be considering ideas which might be making you procrastinate. So we’ll discuss what that appears like particularly, as a result of you are able to do one thing about that for certain. And quantity three is that the productiveness instruments you’re utilizing, and making your perfectionist mindset work towards you rather than for you.

So it may well actually simply be understanding as properly, like I simply have the improper instruments. And it’s such a reduction to know that too. So let’s go into it. So initially, you might have a human mind understanding this piece alone, it’s simply so impactful. Due to the way in which that we wish all concern to be gone earlier than we will begin taking any steps ahead, simply realizing that your mind is wired for survival. And it needs to keep away from rejection. We wish to keep away from as properly discomfort except completely essential. So how our brains work is that they search pleasure, keep away from ache, and so they additionally preserve power. That signifies that your mind to be able to preserve power goes to wish to assume the identical thought it’s all the time thought. I’m not adequate. I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t know sufficient, your mind goes to assume these as a behavior as a result of it’s extra environment friendly in your mind.

And your mind must preserve power in case one thing harmful goes to occur. And it wants that power to get you into security. So that is primitive stuff we’re speaking about right here. However that is like your mind considering you may need to run away from a tiger. So we don’t wish to spend any psychological power on issues If we will keep away from it, let’s simply assume the identical ideas. The issue too with this, the extra you consider thought, the extra true it feels. And so when we’re not understanding that our mind is actually wired, to have thought patterns, and that that is completely different to these types of being true, once we don’t perceive that our mind is de facto simply wanting to maintain us alive. And that usually doesn’t align with us doing wonderful issues and reaching our potential. It simply needs us to remain secure within the cave. And likewise, for those who assume again to how issues had been once we had been in tribes, that in case your tribe was to reject you, you’ll die.

You wanted that help of the tribe to have the ability to have shelter, meals, water, that connection was the whole lot, that connection was actually your livelihood. And so your mind nonetheless has that primitive considering. And that’s all the time going to be there to take care of, I discussed to about neuro divergence, as a result of a lot of my shoppers have issues like ADHD, OCD, issues like that. And so it’s understanding that your human mind may also have a few of these issues happening. And there are methods that may assist with that, or remedy or no matter that appears like for you personally. However your human mind doesn’t need you to do issues, it doesn’t need you to place your self on the market. So you’ll be able to’t await full confidence. As a result of your mind will all the time wish to preserve you in security, in familiarity, to try to preserve you alive.

What has been such a reduction for me and my shoppers to know is that once we are getting in our personal approach, that may be a signal we now have a wise mind, it’s doing its job, we will rewire it in order that we will really feel secure in unfamiliar conditions. And it doesn’t set off that flight struggle or freeze response. However you’re by no means going to have full confidence. As a result of your mind needs to maintain you secure. So that you’ve bought to be taught to do issues when your legs are trembling, or your concepts are going to go together with you to your grave. I don’t say that to be dramatic. I simply say that as a result of it’s true. One of many largest Regrets of the Dying is that I want I had truly given it a go, I want I had truly performed the issues that I wished to do. As a result of our human mind makes us get in our personal approach.

And we have to truly overcome that actively. Quite than ready for the concern to go away all these folks you admire and also you look as much as and also you assume they really feel so assured. They’re simply individuals who have realized the right way to do issues scared. So let’s speak in regards to the second factor I discussed, you’re a perfectionist, you might have a perfectionist mind, proper now you’re within the perfectionist mindset. So alongside having a human mind, that’s all the time going to not need you to do issues to a point. Understanding that you just’re within the perfectionist mindset. And the additional resistance this creates can actually assist you to eradicate it, as a result of we’re not making an attempt to get to a spot the place you by no means ever procrastinate. You by no means ever have any resistance, you’re all the time in alignment and movement. I do know that sounds wonderful. However making an attempt to aspire to that truly retains us caught.

However on the subject of the procrastination, that occurs as a result of your perfectionist mindset particularly, you are able to do one thing about it, you’ll be able to cut back that procrastination. So if you consider having 100% of the procrastination proper now could be the place you’re at, possibly 20% of that may all the time be there. However 80% of it, you are able to do one thing about by understanding your perfectionist mind getting the precise instruments to help it. After which studying the right way to rewire these perfectionist ideas and have development minded ideas as a substitute that mean you can confidently and courageously do issues, since you’re not making failure means one thing about your adequacy, your sufficiency, your love capability.

So let’s discuss what it truly means to be a perfectionist. As a result of there are such a lot of misconceptions round what perfectionism truly is. The misconceptions are, perfectionists are neat and arranged. They’re management freaks, and so they do the whole lot to a very excessive commonplace. So a few of my shoppers have described themselves as being probably the most disorganized, organized person who they know. And I believe that is so correct. That is undoubtedly how I felt as a perfectionist. I beloved organizing issues, writing to do lists, planning, getting my geese in a row. But additionally, for instance, I had issues within the boot of my automobile, like simply random bits and items of issues that wanted to only be put away. For years at a time, I’d have these issues and to Sorry, can’t put something in my boot. It’s stuffed with simply junk, nevertheless it’s full, issues like that, that occurred that we don’t affiliate that with being a perfectionist.

However once you actually perceive what perfectionism is, you can begin to see truly, that so many individuals who don’t determine as a perfectionist, the way in which we sometimes give it some thought as a society are literally perfectionist and simply realizing this and having a phrase for it. It’s to not provide you with a label, and one thing that you just’re going to be caught with. However having language round it provides you entry to options. As soon as I began to grasp and piece collectively what perfectionism actually is, and subsequently what I may do about it. That’s once I was in a position to get out of my very own approach, however I assumed it was only a motivation drawback or a me drawback, that I wasn’t in a position to do something so it’s not about labels right here. It’s actually about understanding how your mind is presently working.

So I really like Brene Brown. She’s a disgrace and vulnerability researcher, you may need seen a few of her TED Talks and issues like that they’re very talked-about. However I really like the way in which she talks about perfectionism, notably because it pertains to disgrace. So she says that perfectionism, like once we’re in that mindset, it’s the idea that if I simply look excellent, and do the whole lot completely, I can keep away from it disgrace, judgment and blame. And actually, the way in which I’ve interpreted this and seen with so a lot of my shoppers, is that perfectionism is only a technique to keep away from disgrace. It’s a reasonably ineffective one, on condition that we disgrace ourselves a lot. However that’s why we wish to keep away from disgrace, as a result of we’re shaming ourselves a lot. We don’t need anybody else so as to add to that, as a result of then that may really feel insufferable.

So we do all types of issues, to attempt to keep away from disgrace. After working with and learning so a lot of my shoppers, I’ve seen time and time once more, these 5 indicators of perfectionism that manifests for perfectionist entrepreneurs, particularly when they’re going from zero to 6 figures, although past that this is applicable to so the primary signal of perfectionism is overthinking. Then there’s procrastination, burnout, concern of judgment, and the all or nothing mindset. So these aren’t issues that as a society, we sometimes coupled with perfectionism, for those who go into the analysis, you’ll see that these connections are there. However as a society, everyday once we discuss perfectionism, we’re simply speaking about neat organized folks.

However perfectionist, we’re scared folks. And it’s not simply concern of failure and rejection, although that’s a part of it. There’s additionally concern of success, we’re frightened of being unlovable being deserted, the disgrace that may include that. We don’t wish to be too profitable that our mates can’t relate to us anymore. However we don’t wish to be too unsuccessful, that our mates can’t relate to us anymore. Both. We wish to be becoming in there’s that individuals pleaser that goes on with perfectionism. We’re simply petrified of experiencing that bodily sensation of disgrace that sensation that analysis has proven is bodily painful. We try so rattling arduous to keep away from that. And we do all types of inventive issues. Just like the issues I discussed earlier, to keep away from feeling that disgrace.

So on this collection, we’re simply speaking about procrastination particularly. However there are such a lot of methods, these 5 ways in which perfectionism manifests in enterprise. They usually’re all ways in which we get to keep away from placing in a full effort, as a result of finally, we’re so scared that if we put in a full effort, we are going to discover out that we aren’t adequate, and our best concern that we’re unlovable might be confirmed. So we maintain ourselves again. So we will say, Effectively, I’d have performed higher if I attempted tougher, or I’d achieve success if I had extra time, if I truly had gotten began, we love the potential that we now have, particularly you probably have been praised rising up for being good and clever, if you’re somebody who has a level or two like myself, that you’re somebody who actually deeply believes in your potential as an entrepreneur, and it scares the shit out of you to search out out that that may not be the reality.

So we do these items. And we bend over backwards to keep away from placing ourselves on the market absolutely in order that we get to carry on to that potential and what I assist my shoppers do. And the work that I do alone perfectionism is de facto serving to me get into a special mindset. In order that I will be prepared to offer a full effort due to course, we intellectually perceive higher what’s wanted to actually achieve success. However I can provide a full effort with out going into over getting ready and stress and burnout, I can provide a full clear effort. And I can deal with no matter comes from that.

In the case of perfectionism, it’s actually necessary to know, there may be nothing improper with you. It’s not poisonous. Folks discuss perfectionism. As if it’s simply as unhealthy behavior you need to lower out you understand, all it is advisable do is simply write on a publish it observe. Performed is best than excellent. After which simply cease making an attempt to do issues completely. However I used to be so annoyed with that recommendation, as a result of I intellectually understood that I wanted to only let issues be adequate and preserve shifting. However I couldn’t emotionally do this. And so studying the right way to get your self to try this emotionally and once more, really feel secure whereas doing that and have your personal again whereas doing that’s completely the whole lot.

Perfectionism isn’t one thing that you’re caught with. You possibly can change your mind and as a coach, that’s what I assist you to do. I assist you rewire your mind so as to do the belongings you wish to do and implement all of the belongings you already know are the next move. You possibly can have faith making these choices, you will get your self to indicate up, you are able to do it in a approach that doesn’t freak you out. You possibly can deal with failure, you’ll be able to deal with rejection, and actually not make it imply something about you. I do know that individuals say, simply don’t fear about what different folks assume. However you do fear. So what can we truly do about that, that’s what I’m going that can assist you with.

And the third purpose that you just procrastinate is that you just’re unknowingly utilizing productiveness instruments which might be turning your perfectionism handbrake on which might be making your perfectionist mindset work towards you rather than working for you. So that you in all probability don’t know this. However perfectionist consistently the identical productiveness recommendation as everybody else, I bought so caught, making an attempt to do to do lists time blocking the Pomodoro methodology, paper planners. post-it notes, all these various things, calendars, I attempted so many alternative time administration strategies, making an attempt to get myself to cease procrastinating to indicate up for lean to really do the issues that I advised myself that I’d do. They usually didn’t work. And as soon as I spotted that after I spotted that truly, it wasn’t as a result of there was one thing improper with me, I simply wanted a device that labored with my perfectionist mind, that’s once I was in a position to truly get my enterprise off the bottom.

And to have the ability to construct a profitable enterprise that I simply truly had an issue with the instruments that I used to be utilizing. And as a lot as I really like a to do listing, it is advisable have one thing that truly will get your perfectionist mind in your aspect, so you will get out of your personal approach. And so let’s simply speak for a second particularly about to do lists, as a result of it’s one thing perfectionist love, we love that cathartic feeling of writing out the to do listing, and the optimism of like, I’d truly get all of this performed. And although it by no means will get performed, and we simply really feel an increasing number of responsible that the whole lot is looming over us. And we nonetheless haven’t performed it. And we’re getting much more behind as a result of we now have so many concepts as an entrepreneur that we’re all the time including to that listing.

Regardless that we like it, it’s making you procrastinate simply by advantage of making an attempt to make use of that device. So for those who go to Google or chatGPT, and also you ask it, how do I set up my time? How do I plan my time, so I will be efficient. One of many prime issues that may come up, that is such an instance of why common productiveness vise, it simply doesn’t work for perfectionist, one of many issues that comes up is that this. And also you may need tried this earlier than, write a to do listing. After which what it is advisable do is prioritize it. So get out your highlighter, and spotlight the highest three to 5 issues, after which work on these. After which as soon as these are full, you’ll be able to come again to the listing. In order that appears like nice recommendation, in fact, prioritization, that’s an necessary factor, you’re all the time going to have an limitless listing of issues to do. However there’s fairly a couple of causes. And I’ll discuss them extra partially three.

However there’s fairly a couple of causes that doesn’t work. However let’s simply take into consideration the expertise of that, to actually see the way it performs out. For a perfectionist entrepreneur utilizing a to do listing. So that you’re a inventive individual you like working, you might have a number of concepts. In order that to do listing is lengthy, it’s a lengthy, lengthy, lengthy to do listing. And there’s a number of large tasks on there. Perhaps it’s like begin a YouTube channel. And there’s a number of little issues that must be on there as properly. It’s simply this large mixture of issues. So that you write this listing, and also you spotlight these issues. And also you get so overwhelmed, you simply really feel like pause and redo it like I don’t have it, I actually simply don’t have sufficient time to get this performed and to make any progress with this.

And so what we are inclined to do in that scenario is we go into busy work, we begin ticking off the little unimportant issues simply to get a sense of progress. So possibly you’re happening and also you’re checking social media stats, otherwise you’re doing market analysis or simply desirous to do one thing since you really feel so overwhelmed about the place to start out is that each one or nothing mindset that perfectionist have that we really feel like if we will’t do all of it, there’s no level doing any of it has different issues with this as properly. You must have your productiveness system, it must have a purpose. And plenty of perfectionist have so many issues that go on with purpose setting. We’ll discuss that too, partially three. However on the subject of this expertise, you might have this free listing, you get overwhelmed, you go into that busy work, and then you definately really feel responsible.

And likewise there’s that like time strain that’s constructing all through the week, you don’t wish to waste the week. So in the direction of the top of the week, you’re like okay, I’d truly begin engaged on these large issues that I have to get performed. So that you’ll both truly begin doing that and also you’ll find yourself like working by way of the evening and simply utterly throwing your private life out the door. In case you have the choice to try this. If you happen to don’t have children or no matter, possibly you do and then you definately’re simply type of eager about it all the time in your thoughts engaged on it in your cellphone and simply making an attempt to sneak issues in.

So that you simply go into that and you may really feel actually impressed doing this too. However you simply go into this like work mode, the place you’re feeling like okay, I truly have to do it now and if I may simply do it completely And I want plenty of time to try this, if I may simply do it completely, possibly I’d be okay. Otherwise you simply find yourself pushing it off and push it off. And when you find yourself on this cycle as properly, this burnout cycle that comes from having a to do listing and utilizing a device that doesn’t work in your perfectionist mind, what’s going to occur is that simply you’re consistently pushing off the large issues since you’re making an attempt to get all of the little issues performed, so that you’ve sufficient time for the large factor. So that you just would possibly discover that you’re simply consistently making an attempt to tick these little issues off to get them out of the way in which. As a way to actually give your full consideration over to that large factor.

So finally, the results of that is that on the finish of the week, you truly haven’t made any progress, any actual progress, or you might have made some progress. However you’re so burned out, you’re letting your entire private life burn, you’re simply not truly on this place, we had been in a position to then go into the following week and be actually productive and have this sense of momentum with you. You’re both so exhausted you can’t do this. However there’s new issues to take action that you just write and even longer to do lists. And that’s so overwhelming, you go into this cycle once more. Or you are attempting to now make up for previous procrastination. And so you’re including even further issues to that to do lists, which is making you extra overwhelmed, which is making you go into their busy work, and then you definately really feel responsible. After which so that you try to overwork to compensate for that.

And then you definately add an excellent longer to do listing. And so it repeats. To Do Lists time blocking SMART objectives, they don’t work for perfectionist. And as soon as you’ll be able to perceive this and get the precise instruments in episode three on this collection, I’m going to be going by way of the three steps of energy planning. After getting that in place, a lot of your procrastination goes to subside simply from utilizing the precise instruments alone, we talked about there being your human mind. And then you definately’re in a perfectionist mindset. And also you’re utilizing the improper instruments. These are the three causes you procrastinate. What we wish to be within the scenario of is that you’re simply left with the procrastination that comes from having a human mind that you’ll be able to then handle that and have efficient methods for that.

However you don’t have all this further procrastination on prime. This actually painful procrastination about 80% of your procrastination, coming from you being in a perfectionist mindset. And utilizing the improper instruments for that perfectionist mindset. So the reality is that this, that inside 72 hours, you’ll be able to have all the data it is advisable make the selections you’ve been procrastinating on and confidently transfer ahead. Perhaps in your scenario, it is likely to be seven days, possibly it is likely to be 14. However typically talking, as somebody who loves procrastin-researching, you might have a reasonably ample financial institution of data that you have already got in your mind you can pull on. And also you simply want the braveness to decide and a special mind-set about choices to have the ability to transfer ahead, somewhat than getting extra data.

The one purpose you don’t have sufficient time is since you’re not planning correctly as a perfectionist. Not planning correctly as a perfectionist is why you push issues off and procrastinate, you haven’t bought the precise device. So that you do revenge bedtime procrastination, the place you keep up actually late at evening, and then you definately battle to get up early within the morning. As a result of in the course of the evening, that’s the one me time, you truly enable your self that’s the one time the place you don’t have the strain to be doing the whole lot completely. You consistently pushing off a very powerful issues it is advisable do. That’s simply actually a planning drawback is so necessary to know that placing stuff out that may really feel uncomfortable, your mind isn’t going to love it. But additionally there are sensible issues you are able to do to assist.

So if we deliver this collectively to wrap this episode up, there are actually three steps to getting out of your personal approach as a perfectionist entrepreneur, make enterprise choices like a enterprise proprietor, somewhat than making them like a scholar or an worker. I’m going to speak about that within the subsequent episode. The following step is to plan your week correctly as a perfectionist. So within the third a part of this collection, I’m going to be sharing with you the three steps of energy planning and speaking about your development purpose as properly. After which the third step is to confidently and persistently put your self on the market. So within the fourth a part of this collection, I’m going to be speaking about the right way to create constructive time strain so as to do this so as to do your finest work with out it burning you out.

So hope you discovered this episode extremely useful. And in that half 5 of this collection I’m going to be telling you extra about the right way to work with me in my program perfectionist getting shit performed. If you happen to do wish to discover out extra about it, you’ll be able to go to samlaurabrown.com/pgsd to affix the waitlist. I wish to invite you in there. If you happen to can relate to this. I actually wish to assist you and never simply have you ever perceive this however actually be capable to stay this and cut back your procrastination and be capable to confidently present up and put your self on the market. And for those who haven’t already subscribed to this podcast hit the subscribe button as a result of in two day’s time I’m going to be sharing half two of this collection the place I’m going to be instructing you the right way to get unstuck with necessary enterprise choices like your area of interest.